Like some people's relationship status on Facebook, feedback is complicated. Check out the various definitions and versions on Wikipedia or google the word "feedback" for proof. Most of us want simple, honest feedback that gives us an idea of how to improve. Why is that so difficult?
There are no end of experts on the topic of feeback. Here's my feedback on the topic of feedback: Let's keep it simple. Just tell me what you think. Comments, please! And, by the way, you can provide anonymous comments without logging in or creating an account--thanks to a few caring friends who provided feedback. Oh, and my Feedburner Subscribe button works now, too. Please subscribe.
If you really want to learn about giving effective, even transformative, feedback, read my favorite experts on the topic, Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey, authors of How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work. A blog post is way too short for something so complicated.
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A great post for contemplating Karina, thank you! I believe that great feedback depends upon the intention of the feedbacker :). What's their agenda? If it's to persuade, cajole, manipulate, or otherwise force their agenda on me, then NO THANKS. If it's to provide another lens, another possibility, another channel for dialog, then I'm all ears AND heart. Thanks for the question. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteSue - Thanks for your comment. I agree! When I think someone is attached to the outcome, it doesn't feel very good. I do try to see what the true commitment behind the attachment is. Often, the person loves me, and I just don't like the way they are showing it! :) Feedback is best given to the willing!
ReplyDeleteALL feedback is valuable even when the person has an agenda. Feedback is the only clue you have to how you are occuring in the world. Here is the one thing to remember though. Feedback is not true. It is how someone is perceiving you or the situation. Listening to feedback in a neutral way can make a huge difference for ourselves and how we lead others.
ReplyDeleteAlicia--I was just going through my blog and realized I never responded to your comment. Thanks for helping me understand that feedback is not the truth about me AND that all feedback is valuable. Getting this has made a huge difference in my life!
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